Archive for March, 2010

Out of the Mouths of Babes (or 6 yo’s)

March 25th, 2010

This morning on the way to school, our Car-versation (a term I coined for our daily morning conversations on the way to school) topic was Martin Luther King, Jr. A worthy topic, no?  Rohan is very intrigued with him and it makes my heart glad that he has the wherewithal to choose MLK Jr. over SpongeBob.  He loves talking about what kind of man he was, why he did what he did etc. And I means LOVES. As in hours and hours of chatter and noise and me blindly feeling around for some espresso.

Anyhow, this morning he said a particularly astute comment which I will share with you.

*Drumroll*

Me:  …So Martin Luther King Jr. tried to teach people to react to hate with love. Meaning that, when someone is mean to you, he saw that is was better to not be mean back, but rather remember to  love.

Ro:  So if someone is mean to me or doesn’t like me because I’m brown, I should try to be nice to them?

Me:  Yes, that is the idea. Love doesn’t mean you have to love them like you love Mommy and Daddy but treat them with all the things that ARE love, like kindness and respect..

Ro:  But what if they’re really REALLY mean?

Me:  If you react with meanness, it will only make them meaner.

Ro:  So he said to love them even when they’re mean?

Me:  Yes, buddy..

Ro:  Did he say I could use kung fu moves too?

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Uncle Matt + Ro = Photo Booth Fun

March 16th, 2010

This is what happens when Uncle Matt babysits Rohan:

Grim N Ro from Jessica Thompson on Vimeo.

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Little Moments

March 9th, 2010

I think one of the hardest things to do is to not react when someone is trying to hurt you with words. (At least for me since my old moniker was “Super Beeyatch”.) Until last September, I lived my life in a constant state of defensiveness which led me to act in a way that I now know was not my authentic self. I put on a very cold, domineering front which polarized my relationships and perpetuated the opposite of the very thing I deeply wanted; deep and meaningful relationships.

Right now there is someone in my life that is going through a rough time and, as a result, they are lashing out at me with the most hurtful words. The Ol’ Jess would react by biting back and trying to hurt them as much as they hurt me. And, while that tendency is still there a wee bit deep down, I am choosing to react with love. Literally as these awful words are hurled my way, in my head I say to myself “Cancel. Cancel. You are loved.” Or I just tell myself that I’m just a punching bag for the feelings they refuse to face. And here’s a tip: if someone is spewing anger at you, wrap your arms around them and hug. Even if they remain stiff and cold, the human spirit always reacts to love. Let them feel it.

Even though I know this is the right approach, it takes so much mental and emotional energy to not lash back and force my mind in a totally different direction than it’s been going for 33 years. It’s exhausting but I know that, not only am I supporting my friend through their rough time, I am also growing up in a profound way. (Cue my Mom saying “It’s ’bout dang time!”)

And speaking of growing up, a big moment happened in our household this weekend. Rohan lost his first tooth and apparently, he was so impressed he told me to call President Obama to share this delightful and earth shattering news with him.

I don’t know why the White House wouldn’t put me straight through to the Oval Office.

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1/2 Indian 6 yo male version of Beyonce?

March 5th, 2010

Ro Gettin’ Down from Jessica Thompson on Vimeo.

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